Sealegs for Success: 21 Awesome Arghs for Balancing Your Life and Work!

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Argh #2

Get clear about where you want to go!  Who you want to be!  What you want to do!   Choose it!  Declare it!  Be specific! 

Otherwise, just ask Alice!

“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?” asked Alice as she stood at a fork of the road in Wonderland.

“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” grinned the big Cheshire Cat sitting in the bough of a tree a few yards off.”

“I don’t much care where—” said Alice.

“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.

“—so long as I get SOMEWHERE,” Alice added as an explanation.

“Oh, you’re sure to do that,” said the Cat, “if you only walk long enough.”

—- “Alice in Wonderland: Through the Looking Glass” by Lewis Carroll, 1865

Unlike wandering Alice, you do care where you are going.  You do want to grow. You do want to make progress.  Otherwise you wouldn’t be reading a book like this one.

But like wandering Alice, we are sometimes too general in planning where we want to go.  “…as long as I get SOMEWHERE,” she explained.  We keep our goals and dreams general and vague, so we won’t get caught missing the mark.  If we are vague, we can avoid being called a failure.

But that strategy doesn’t work, because something inside of us longs for specific victories and successes, and the journey of vagueness doesn’t provide many of these.

Success coaches often ask, “What does success in your business (relationship, project) look like?  The more specific the answers, the better.  The specifics bring us into a directed accountability. 

Working on this book, I set a date for finishing the first draft.  I declared to myself and to my wife, Jeannette, that it had to be finished before the conference coming up in four weeks where I would see one of my mentors.  I wanted to be able to look him in the eye and say, “I’ve completed my first draft.”

It was the self-imposed specific accountability to myself and another human being that really helped me meet this goal.  If I hadn’t stated it to myself and Jeannette, I likely wouldn’t have finished. 

My most productive writing day happened when Jeannette, in her very positive way, prayed with me and encouraged me to walk back into my office.  I came out a few hours later with three chapters done!  She smiled, said I was on a roll, and suggested I get back in there and do some more.  So back in I went, and three more chapters were the result!

Comedian Lily Tomlin quips, “I always wanted to be SOMEBODY.  I wish I’d been more specific!”

Where?  SOMEWHERE.

Who?     SOMEBODY.

How?      SOMEHOW.

When?    SOMETIME.

As Tomlin says, “I wish I’d been more specific!”

“I have a dream!” said Martin Luther King, Jr.  Then he moved to specific plans and talked about changes in the State of Georgia, reformation in the State of Alabama, unity and brotherhood between blacks and whites, and freedom from prejudice for his four little children.

President John F. Kennedy didn’t say, “We need to win big in outer space!  We need to get to the moon.”  Instead, he very specifically said, “I believe that this nation should commit itself to achieving the goal, before this decade is out, of landing a man on the moon and returning him safely to the earth.”

Jimmy Wales, founder of Wikipedia, writes, “Imagine a world in which every single person on the planet has free access to the sum of all human knowledge.”  Wikipedia started in 2001 and now has over 340 million users each month.

“Without a vision, the people perish.”  Ancient Hebrew Proverb

“This one thing I do.  Forgetting those things that are behind, I stretch out toward the high calling of the prize!”  Paul of Tarsus

I watched a woman in front of the grocery store yesterday who was asking people for donations to help feed the homeless during the holidays.  She was smiling, loud, bold, obnoxious, and poorly dressed, but she had one thing going for her.  She was persistent.  She had a dream, at least for that day.

“How about just fifty cents for the homeless?” she asked everyone who passed by.  While most folks shook their heads or just ignored her, she wasn’t deterred by their rejection.  During the few minutes I watched, eight or ten people went by and she got donations from two.  She got a buck from me, too, mainly because she inspired me.  Little did she know the power of her choice and the positive influence of her determined outreach program!

As professional speaker James Malinchak says “Get off you Assets and get going!”

Argh #2 Reflections:

  1. What interested you most in this chapter?
  2. Why are we sometimes unwilling or unable to declare where we are going?
  3. What would success look like in your business (personal, spiritual, financial, or social) life?  Be as specific as possible…

Your crazy and wild comments are super welcome! Just an Argh in the comment section will change the world! (The Parrot Effect!)

Best re-Arghs!
Cap’n John

Captain John
Argh, me hearty!