“The principle form that the work of love takes is attention. When we love another we give them our attention, we attend to that person’s growth. When we love ourselves we attend to our own growth.” — M. Scott Peck, M.D. The Road Less Traveled
Of course, stalkers, predators, opportunists, extortionists and narcissists are attentive too. The catch is they are not interested in growth for love’s sake. They want something upon which they can lay prey and feed.
Paying attention to ourself or others means that we are concentrating, focusing, listening…and fighting all the stuff that wants to undermine attentiveness and choke it to death knowing that, after it dies, all we will hear is the noise of our own fantasy, anxiety, and conceit.